Not literally. Or so I hope.
However, I hope this is the last Christmas since 2019, where I have to wake up to an empty space in the bed beside me.
Yesterday was a lovely day. We made the most of it.
He is out of the hell of prison. He was here with us. That means the world and I count my blessings because we are so fortunate compared to others.
However, an undercurrent of sadness threatened to engulf the day. I could feel it. I could also sense it from him.
It’s 4 Christmas s now since the knock.
The first 2020, where he was living in his own flat. Woke up separately and he had to leave in the night.
Then the toughest of all, the 2021 Christmas, when he was in prison. The first and only Christmas I haven’t spent with him since 1998. It was a very tough day, making the most of phone calls even finding a way to play silly games with the kids whilst he joined us on speaker phone. Talk about making the best of a difficult situation.
Christmas 2022 feels a bit of a blur now. He was released on 9th. We spent 2 weeks adjusting to life together (all be it him staying at his parents house). Christmas we were so grateful to be together. Him slipping away to stay at his parents house seemed minimal.
This Christmas, 2023, life is getting better. Life is much better. He’s been out over a year now. Our family is healing from the trauma of the last few years. The boys are growing up fast. This time next year our eldest will be an adult and our youngest a teenager. Santa no longer visits. Yesterday we had a lovely day…. presents, all sat down to a lovely home cooked Christmas dinner together. We played board games, watched Christmas specials and had nice food and drinks.
However, I felt a sad undercurrent from my husband and I. The kids seemed oblivious. We didn’t wake up together Christmas morning. We didn’t go to bed together Christmas night. That was tough. Him having to leave after such a lovely day together.
I try to forget. To live in the moment. We both do. However, it’s a slap in the face…just incase we feel we have the right to forget. To move forward after everything.
I am confident, all be it a little apprehensive to say that this will be the last Christmas like this.
Come April 2024, he will have finished his licence. He will have finished his course. He will be able to come home. Properly home…not one foot in and one foot out.
I hope this is the last Christmas that is overshadowed by my husbands offence. He has served his time. He deserves to move forward. We all do.
Maybe Christmas 2024, on Christmas eve and Christmas night, I will be able to go to sleep and wake up beside my husband.
Maybe I will be able to forget, for just one day what happened to our life, because he will be home with us where he belongs.