So yesterday was a fairly full on day.
In the morning I went shopping for the last bits of Christmas food for me and the boys.
Then I picked up Christmas cakes made by my work colleague.
Then I went to put flowers on my Mum and Dad’s grave. Noticing clearly none of my sisters have been near for a while. I’m the ostracised one yet I’m the one who makes the effort as usual.
Then it was visiting time to see Hubby before Christmas.
The boys and I and my inlaws all went. The last one 5 of us can be at before restrictions start in January again.
We sat chatting, colouring in Christmas pictures and games. It was a nice visit. Very surreal surroundings but we did manage to spend nice quality family time together.
The tough part came when it was time to say goodbye. Knowing we won’t see him now until Christmas is over.
We got home and the boys had been left Christmas presents off Children heard and seen. Amazing gifts they both loved. It was great booster for them after seeing their dad for the last time before Christmas.
Then in the evening I hosted a zoom quiz with the other amazing Warrior Women I’m in touch with. These ladies have become more than friends to me. They feel more like family to me right now to be honest. We get eachother through each day whilst going through the toughest time of our lives.
We had lots of fun. The quiz went down well and we all washed it down with various alcoholic drinks.
A group of women from all walks of life; spread between England, Wales and Northern Ireland. United by our Husbands offences. Adversity brought us together and we have made lifelong friends. These ladies are the some of most empathic, compassionate and kind people I’ve ever met.
Many of us have been shunned by our families by supporting our Husbands. There has been lots of noise around us being recognised as victims of crime. I actually feel like it’s more than that. We are actually treated more like perpetrators.
I am so grateful to these ladies for helping me to get through each day. I hope I help them half as much as they help me.
It’s Christmas eve today. Me and the boys will speak to Hubby on the phone but we will miss him terribly.
I will do all I can to make sure we have a very special day tomorrow but I know it won’t be the same without him.
After the knock 
I am going to see my partner today with his parents. Due to covid the visit has been cut to an hour, but better than nothing and as we are unsure if we will get any visits in January (again covid) I will treasure today although I know it will be hard for all of us. As I will get to come home and thankfully spend it with my family tomorrow will be hard thinking of him in there.
I really hope you and your boys have the best day possible tomorrow until you can have him back home where he belongs, with you.
And the irony of your sisters neglect of your parents grave just about sums them up. I hope in time they can see it in there hearts to stop punishing you and your family. But I guess the damage has been done even if they do turn around. I am glad you have found support with other women in our situation. Merry Christmas to you and your boys xxx
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Awww thank you so much for tiur lovely kind words hunny.
I think that’s right about my family… They are very good at abandonment. I don’t need their negativity and drama right now either.
I am glad you get to spend Christmas with your family.
I really hope your visit goes well today. My hubby was just telling me there was a silence with the other men walking back to the wing compared to the usual chatter. Very sad. Christmas magnifies everything but it really is just a day.
I prey that you have your visits in January 🙏♥️
Take care of yourself tomorrow and I wish you all a very merry Christmas xxxxx
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