This blog post is a Thank you to children heard and seen.
My children and I have been mostly abandoned by my side of the family (sisters, niece’s, nephew) since my Husband / their Father committed an online sexual offence and I decided to keep our family together.
The pain this has caused me is indescribable to be honest.
Others tell me that one day they may come back to me. For me I feel this will be too little too late. They’ve walked away during an extremely vulnerable time in mine and my children’s lives.
Valentine’s Day approaching has been triggering, missing my husband so much. There’s a huge gap in our lives where he should be.
However, I feel like this has been turned around, thanks to Children Heard and Seen.
Yesterday, we had a valentine’s parcel delivered. This contained treats for the children and I; books, pampering toiletries, headphones, a snuggle blanket etc etc.
Then this evening my youngest and I have been to an event to learn how to make Bath bombs and bring one home.
I want Children Heard and Seen staff to know and understand what this means.
When those who are supposed to love us have walked away, it’s left us extremely vulnerable. These gestures have made me feel so warm inside, so comforted and feel so special. There is no judgement. The shame of my husbands offence is irrelevant here. We are treated with the compassion and warmth we need and we deserve.
The Friday group for Non offending partners / ex partners is a safe space to be able to vent, cry, seek support, advice and guidance. The parent and the staff member who run this, create the perfect safe space for us all.
It means the world.
I work in the Support sector myself so I know that not one of them do their job for the money. They do it because they want to make a difference in families lives during the biggest trauma. They achieve that and more.
I want to Thank all of you for being a ray of light in our lives right now.
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