Time for change?! 🙏

Over the past 2 days I have:

* Met with a PhD student who is currently working on a research project with non-offending partners / ex-partners, looking into the reasons why people stay with their partners and why people leave.

* Spoken with a journalist who is currently working on an article around Idecent Images. She is looking into how ‘accessible’ these are in the porn world online.

* Attended a webinar raising awareness of how ‘the knock’ and the impact upon families both short and long term.

I’ve been part of this ‘world’ for over 18 months now. I have spoken to probably hundreds of women who’s lives and families have been blown apart since the knock.

There are many professionals now working to raise awareness and give non-offending partners a voice. Yet there is little change.

The presentation on the Webinar revealed that around 850 men are getting the knock every month. Many of these have families like mine. 35% of knocks have children present at the time.

The presentation is being rolled out to police forces and I think they said has been delivered around 250 times.

It gives me hope that professionals are starting to sing from the same hymn sheet as myself and the other ladies I’ve met along the way. However, we are not the decision makers or the ones who can enforce change.

When are the police going to stop coming in so mob handedly and blowing families lives apart? When are social care going to start assessing men properly and stop causing additional trauma to children and partners by treating all of the men viewing these images as one step away from harming a real child?

Statistics show that 75% of men are led down this path by legal material available freely on porn sites and social media.

98% of online offenders would never escalate to contact offending.

There is a pandemic of porn addiction that us bubbling under society.